How to Overcome Negative Self-talk

I heard someone recently say, “God is incapable of creating worthless things”. While I don’t remember who had said this, it caused me to think a lot about how sometimes I feel like I am worthless. I can easily get down on myself and start down a path of comparison and self-doubt. Negative self-talk is so destructive and can prevent us from walking in our purpose. When I find myself believing the lies that the enemy is throwing my way, I am doubting the fact that God created me and did so on purpose. As Psalm 139:13-14 reminds me, I am fearfully and wonderfully made.

The Problem

I’ve thought a lot about how to deal with this destructive path of comparison and negative self-talk. Thinking things like, “I’m too fat”, or “I’m too loud”, or “I wish my personality was more like her’s”, can be so damaging to our self-worth. When I think such terrible things about myself, I’m ultimately criticizing my creator. Can you imagine being face to face to the one who created you, who knit you together in your mother’s womb, and telling Him what you think is wrong with His creation?

But still, negative self-talk happens.

Often I’ll find myself spiraling down, consumed in negative self-talk while looking at social media. While I love social media and how it allows people to connect and learn from one another, it can be very damaging to your heart. I can unfortunately spend hours staring at other people’s perfectly put together Instagram feed and think, “Why isn’t my life that perfect?”. I wish I could always logically think back to myself, “Because no one’s life is that perfect! This is their highlight reel”.

Another place that fed into the lies that I believe about myself was a few work situations. While I have had a wonderful career so far and I’m thankful for all the opportunities I have had, the roles that I have been in are ones of extreme pressure and high demand for perfect performance. While many times supervisors tried to implement improvement from their teams, it often came out in a demeaning and manipulative way. I started to believe if I didn’t perform perfectly that I was worthless, stupid, and not good enough.

Negative self-talk can come from many sources, but at the end of the day, it’s part of the enemies plan to steal, kill, and destroy. If Satan can convince me that I’m not good enough to do something, even for one day, he is winning and I am missing opportunities. He can ultimately use these lies to stop me from pursuing and completing my God-given purpose.

The Solution

Enough talk about the problem. What’s the solution? God gave us a tool that we can use to combat those lies. His Word! We need to hide His Word in our hearts so in times that our worth comes into question, we have something to come against that! Here are some verses that I use when lies about who I am and Who’s I am come into question.

“For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” Psalm 139:13-14

God made me. He purposefully made me just the way I am. He has had a plan for me since the beginning of time. God purposefully made me with my personality, my appearance, my characteristics and He loves me just the way I am. He is pleased with His creation.


“Now may the God of peace who brought again from the dead our Lord Jesus, the great shepherd of the sheep, by the blood of the eternal covenant, equip you with everything good that you may do his will, working in us that which is pleasing in his sight, through Jesus Christ, to whom be glory forever and ever. Amen.” Hebrews 13:20-21

God is going to equip me to do what He created me to do. I don’t have to rely on myself to do what he placed before me. He will prepare me and equip me for His good works.


“For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.” Ephesians 2:10

God created us. We are His creation. Created with a purpose that He decided from the beginning. We were made the way we are on purpose with purpose! We can’t allow ourselves to be wrapped up in our self-proclaimed flaws. What a disservice to the one who created us to do something specific.


“For if you keep silent at this time, relief and deliverance will rise for the Jews from another place, but you and your father’s house will perish. And who knows whether you have not come to the kingdom for such a time as this?” Esther 4:14

That gives me chills. Esther’s story is one to be studied! This verse alone has so much to be unpacked! If Esther allowed negative self-talk and fear to overtake her, look what she would have missed out on! The Lord wanted to use her, but he didn’t need here. He doesn’t need any one of us to accomplish His purpose. He chooses to use us to be a part of His plan. This was Esther’s moment. Was she going to let the enemy step in to steal, kill, and destroy? Or was she going to trust that God created her for such a time as this to follow God’s call on her life?


What about you? Are you willing to believe and proclaim the truth given to us by God or the lies whispered into your ear by the enemy that are meant to steal, kill, and destroy?


These are just a few verses we can use to remind ourselves of our value and worth in Christ. Remember Who made you and that He made you with purpose. Memorize the Word and use it to come against what Satan is trying to use to keep you from being used in such a time as this.


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